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Proper Etiquette

In the Orthodox Church, there are many customs and traditions that are an important part of our worship. Some are cultural and some are pious customs. Some are essential and some are not. From time-to-time, we need to address some of these various etiquette issues to better inform the faithful.

Reverent Behavior

When entering the narthex, we are leaving the secular world behind us.  As we enter the nave of the sanctuary, we enter into a space of worship that is a foretaste of the Kingdom of Heaven.

Conversation and speaking should be limited to essential communication.  Casual conversation should not be held in church and never during the time Holy Communion is being offered.  Fellowship time follows services during the Coffee Hour.

Chewing gum is inappropriate.

Venerating Icons

When you enter the church, it is traditional to venerate the icons. When venerating (kissing) the icon, please beware that it is improper to kiss an icon on the face.
Lighting CandlescandlesLighting candles is an important part of Orthodox worship. We light them as we pray, making an offering to accompany our prayers. Orthodox typically light candles when coming into the Church.

The Importance of Punctuality

The time to arrive at Church is before the service starts. If you arrive after the Divine Liturgy begins, try to enter the Church quietly and observe what is happening. If the Epistle or Gospel is being read or the Little or Great Entrance is taking place, wait until it is finished to quickly find a seat.. Try not to interrupt the Liturgy by your entrance. The best way to avoid this situation is to arrive on time.

"Let Us Attend"

In some Orthodox cultures, crossing one's legs is taboo and considered to be very disrespectful. In our North American culture, while there are no real taboos, we tend to cross our legs to get comfortable when sitting. Crossing one's legs in church is not permitted, not because it is "wrong," but rather because it is too casual and relaxed for being in church. Remember, sitting in church is a concession, not the normative way of prayer. You surely do not want to get too relaxed and let your minds drift off. In fact, when you do sit in church, you should sit attentively. Keep both feet on the floor, ready to stand at attention, which is what "let us attend" means. Please do not chew gum in the sanctuary. 

Young Children & Babies

We encourage you to bring your young children and babies to church services. After all, Jesus said: "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these" (Matthew 19:14). However, if your child becomes excessively noisy, we ask you to please take them to the nursery so as to not disrupt the service for others. The nursery is equipped with closed circuit TV so you may watch the service from there.  We have also designated the library as our "Quiet Room".  A gentle reminder, please do not overdue children's snacks in the sanctuary.  Use the "Quiet Room" or the nursery for food consumption. 

Excessive Cosmetics

Women who wear lipstick to church should blot their lips well before venerating an icon, receiving Communion, or kissing the cross or the priest's or bishop's hand. Perfumes and after-shave should be worn at a bare minimum (if at all).

Leaving Before Dismissal

Leaving church before dismissal deprives us of a blessing. Worship has a beginning "Blessed is the Kingdom..." and an end "Let us depart in peace..." To leave immediately after Communion is to treat the church like a restaurant where we come and go as we please.

Handling The Blessed Bread (Antidoron)

After receiving Holy Communion and at the end of the Divine Liturgy, it is customary to receive a piece of holy bread or antidoron - the bread that was left over after Holy Communion was prepared. While antidoron is not Holy Communion, it is blessed bread, and as such should be eaten carefully so that crumbs do not fall. Both adults and children should always remember to treat and consume the antidoron with respect.

Attire: Using Good Judgement

When attending services, there are those who feel that God will accept us regardless of our attire. Yes, God does accept us as we are, but what are we doing to prepare ourselves for Him? This is why we must take proper care in what we wear. We need not be dressed "fancy" so as to impress others.

We need to only be dressed "respectfully" and "modestly" so as to present ourselves to God. Preferably, this means wearing "Sunday best" but "business casual" is acceptable. From time to time, medical or other reasons arise which may prohibit the wearing of certain clothing. You should use your good judgment when these situations arise. Speaking with your priest will help also.

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